Perhaps you have a really hard time deciding whether to get back together with your ex boyfriend.
Well, here is my opinion of whether you should get back together with him.
1. Is There Any Violence or Physical Abuse?
I believe most, if not all relationship experts will agree with this. If your ex boyfriend is physically abusing you in anyway, it is really time to leave the relationship for the sake of your own safety. A man’s responsibility should be to protect you, not to do the opposite.
2. Do You Trust Him?
Do you always have a hard time believing in what he says? Do you always feel like you have to check his cell phone or login to his Facebook account?
Of course, it is important to differentiate between whether it is due to your own insecurity or he is simply not a trustworthy person.
If it is due to your own insecurity, then you really have to work on it. However, if he just happens to be the guy you find you can’t trust, then you really have to consider whether it is even a good idea to take him back.
A relationship without trust is going to crumble anytime. It is a lot of easier to get into a relationship with someone you can trust.
3. Are You Compatible?
A lot of times, you shouldn’t get back together with a man not because he is a bad person, but simply because both of you are not compatible.
For example, maybe he is a pilot. Due to the nature of his job, he has to travel a lot, which means you are not going to see him as often as you like to.
Perhaps that is the reason for breaking up. So there is really no point getting back together unless you have decided that this is something you can accept, as long as he does make an effort to spend time with you whenever he is not working.
However, it is important to understand that a lot of the so called incompatibility issues can be resolved simply by better communication. So before you dismiss a relationship because of incompatibility, maybe you should upgrade your communication skills instead.
4. Are There Any Deal Breakers
If there is even one deal breaker, then it is probably not a good idea to get back together.
For example, if you want to get married and have kids and he doesn’t and has already told you so, then it is time for you to move on. Don’t try to hang on to this relationship, hoping that he will eventually change his mind.
Maybe he will but most likely, he won’t.
5. Have You Tried Your Best At Least Once?
If you have none of the problems mentioned above and you really think this relationship is worth saving, then you have to ask yourself whether you have tried your best to get him back at least once.
If you never even try even though you really feel there is a potential in this relationship, then you will keep on wondering “what if”. There might be a sense of regret and you will find it harder to let go and move on.
On the other hand, if you have tried at least once and he doesn’t want to get back together with you, then at least you know it is time to let go. You know that you have given it a shot and tried your best. So you can finally let go without any regrets.
Of course, trying your best means taking an educated approach. Trying to get your ex back without the proper knowledge and making all kinds of mistakes and pushing your ex away is not called trying your best.
So make sure you get a proper education on how to get your ex back.