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Why You Don’t Have To Worry About Your Ex Dating Another Woman

Perhaps you are not emotionally ready to contact your ex yet. However, you feel pressured to do so because you are worried that your ex is dating another woman maybe after seeing his Facebook updates.

I am here to tell you not to worry about it.

For 2 reasons.

1. Don’t take his Facebook updates too seriously.

People do all kinds of weird stuff on Facebook especially just after a break up. Don’t automatically assume that he is dating another woman just because you see his photos.

 

2. Even if he is dating another woman, it is most likely a rebound relationship.

Most importantly, worrying is not going to help you get your ex back. If you attempt to get your ex back when you are not emotionally ready because of another woman, you will tend to do things that pushes your ex away instead.

 

Hopefully, the video below will be able to convince you and help to calm you down.

Although the video above was created for guys trying to get their girlfriend back, the concept is also very relevant to women like you, who are trying to get their boyfriend back.

In the video above, it was mentioned that there is an 84% chance for you to get your ex boyfriend back. Of course, that doesn’t necessary mean you will also have an 84% chance. But your chance is certainly way above 50%, as long as you focus on becoming the best version of yourself.

I hope you find today’s newsletter helpful and calming. Your situation is probably not as bad as you think.

If for some reasons, you are still worried about your situation or you think your situation is really complicated, you may want to consider getting custom support for your unique relationship situation.

Mark Ong

PS: Tomorrow, I am going to ask you to stop doing one thing for at least 21 days.

This will help you heal faster so that you will be ready to face your ex sooner.

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Josey

I am in need of some help, obviously. My boyfriend and I were together for 2 1/2 years and were very close. Around the 1 1/2 year mark we went through some changes and began getting in meaning bless fights. Towards the end of this relationship, it seemed that we were beating the dead horse regularly discussing whether or not we should stay together. About a week prior to the break up he was crying!!! Had told me that he knew he would be making a mistake losing me, someone that would always be faithful, and was the best thing to ever happen to him.. Texting me the next morning letting me know that he knew I was the one. A week later we got in an argument, he didn’t text me he loved me when saying goodnight, he didn’t text me good morning or talk to me the whole day.. So finally I texted him and he told me he didn’t think he could do us anymore and he had been thinking about it for months.. Of course, I did all the wrong things including begging and pleading which didn’t work.. Duh and then I found out he had tried to contact his ex…… The next day I texted him and apologized for my wrong doings in the relationship and that really didn’t get me anywhere.. We went about a week without talking and then we talked again and things seemed to be okay until I brought up us and if he missed me and he retreated and just wanted to get off the phone. I’m in a place where I feel if I don’t try I’ll lose him and if I try too hard the same but I can’t shake the feeling that we are meant to be, I feel it in my faith and heart but everyone else seems to think I should just not talk to him for awhile and leave him alone. I’ve sent him some messages he didn’t respond but still liked his exes things on fb…
Thank you
Josey

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    Mark

    Leave him alone for the time being. Trying to contact him now is not going to bring him back and will just push him further away.

    The reason he breakup with you is because the emotional connection is no longer there anymore. All the meaningless fights you mentioned has depleted the emotional bank.

    If you want to get him back, you need to be able to connect with him emotionally again and build up the emotional bank. This can only be done if you are in control of your emotions.

    There is no magic trick or magic words you can say to get him back. I will encourage you to practice awareness and acceptance like I mentioned in this article and my newsletter so that you can really transform yourself internally and bring the best version of yourself to interact with him.

    Only when he can see the changes in you will he even consider getting back together with you. So work on yourself first before you contact him again. Don’t worry about his exes. It seems like he is just feeling lonely and is finding an outlet to relief his loneliness.

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      Josey

      Thank you much for responding. How will I rebuild that connection when he seems to want nothing to do with me? When will I know the right time and what will I even say?

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leth

I have an online boyfriend and I love him,but we broke up 2weeks ago, because of third party also in online.
And now I realize its hard for me to move on.he never contact me anymore.
I really miss him. I dont know if he feel the same.

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    Mark

    Have you actually met him face to face?

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Josey

Thank you much for responding. How will I rebuild that connection when he seems to want nothing to do with me? When will I know the right time and what will I even say?

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    Mark

    Sometimes, you need to take a step back and look at what you are doing that causes him to react that way towards you.

    From your earlier comment, I noticed that you are constantly pushing, pushing and pushing. So his natural reaction towards you will be withdrawing, withdrawing and withdrawing.

    Right now, he is highly resistant towards you. So don’t push any further. You are trying too hard to control the situation, controlling his response etc.

    You need to practise acceptance. Read the article on my blog, “What It Really Takes To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back”. Let go of your controlling self. Be willing to accept whatever outcome calmly.

    When you can bring this attitude in your interaction with him, he will no longer feel so pressured that he has to withdraw from you.

    Don’t apologize. Show, don’t tell.

    You need to show him that you have changed. Action means a lot more than words.

    You are too emotional now to be able to connect with him. He can probably sense it.

    That is the reason why I recommend meditation the very first day you signed up for my newsletter.

    It is a very practical way to help you calm down and more importantly build up your awareness and acceptance. The first step to improving and changing yourself is awareness.

    Without awareness, you won’t even know what went wrong.

    The right time is when your emotions is under control. When you are able to stay in the present moment (awareness). When you are able to accept the good, the bad and the neutral.

    You need to learn how to respond to situation instead of reacting to the situation.

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Josey

What does it mean when they delete pictures of social media?

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    Mark

    Well, it simply means they delete pictures of social media.

    Josey, I hope you understand that I not trying to be cheeky here.

    I just want you to focus on important things that really matter. Important things that will actually help you get your ex back.

    Put it this way. So he delete pictures on social media. Why?

    Can it be he wants to move on? Well, maybe. Maybe not. Who knows?

    Can it be he just want to heal but seeing your pictures make it harder for him to heal? Well, maybe. Maybe not. Who knows?

    Will he regret deleting the pictures? Well, maybe. Maybe not. Who knows?

    Did he save a copy and will he reupload the pictures in the future. Well, maybe. Maybe not. Who knows?

    You see the point here? I can probably spend a few more hours trying to come up with all the possible scenarios and still not know why he is doing that.

    And what is the point of spending hours upon hours over analyzing his every move?

    Is that going to help you get him back?

    Or is it going to make your more emotional?

    Don’t you think your time will be better spent working on yourself, which will actually help you get him back?

    The most important factor that determines whether you can get him back is none other than you.

    It is what you choose to do during this period that will determine your chances of getting him back.

    Focus on yourself. Stay away from Facebook. Spend time meditating. Do things you always wanted to do.

    You may also want to read this article.

    https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/rewire-your-brain-love/200911/nine-ways-meditating-brain-creates-better-relationships

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Josey

I will try the meditating. Right now I am having a hard time because it has been over a month and I still wake up with panic every morning. I’ve really taken this time to see what happened and I’ve found that majority of the problems stemmed from me. By deleting everything I feel he is closing the door to another opportunity and that I might never get him back and he will be the one that got away. I’m obviously desperate which I know plays a part.

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Maria Browne

My boyfriend and I was not getting on as a couple when I decided to break up with him. I must admit I did not know if it was the right thing to do at the time, but I have such an erratic character that I do first, and think later
Anyway, it’s been only five days, and I feel as though I have been to Hell and back literally. The emotional pain that I am feeling is horrible, I am trying to get on with life, but adjusting to single life is tough, and scary. I have panic attacks every night before bed.
On a plus side Mark, I have been following your blog, and in these dark times, you have been my ray of light.
I have been Meditating daily, starting with five minutes, haven’t mastered it yet, but do find that it’s very calming.
I have felt more positive, and know that the journey ahead is not over.
I sent my ex a text today, not the type that says I love and miss you which I do!!!, but instead…. Something light that he can relate to, and he actually replied!, even though he has been avoiding me since our breakup.
I am going to continue reading your blog, and putting into practice what you say in the hope that I get back with my ex, or it makes me a better more focused person.
Oh by the way, I did not text my ex back again… Trying to introduce the contact again slowly.

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    Mark

    Hey Maria, that’s a good start! Some people take a shorter time while others may take longer to start experiencing the benefits of meditation. So I am glad you are already seeing the benefits so early. Keep practising and you will start gaining more control of your emotions.

    I understand a breakup can be tough, especially in the beginning. Try adopting this mindset shift. Don’t think of the breakup as something negative. Look at the positives. It can be a chance for you to build a better and stronger relationship with your ex. And I think you are doing pretty good so far.

    Yes. You should definitely go slow. After all, it is going to take some time for you to gain control of your own emotions and develop inner strength. So no hurry to get back together with him. Be patient. Control the pace.

    Keep things light for now. Only when you are emotionally ready do you start actively trying to get your ex back.

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