Are You Using Facebook To Get Your Ex Back?
If you are thinking of using Facebook to win your ex boyfriend back, you may want to think twice.
From the many cases I have encountered so far, people (men and women included) who try to use Facebook to get their ex back end up making the situation worse. You will probably do better if you stay away from any social media sites during this period.
Even if you are not trying to use Facebook to get him back, I will advise you to refrain from logging in.
Let’s be honest here. Chances are if you are logged in to Facebook, you will probably be tempted to check your ex boyfriend’s profile. Even if you are not actively checking his profile, you will probably see his status updates on your wall.
Stalking him online can really mess up your emotions when you are trying so hard to heal. This is especially true if your boyfriend happens to be using some kinds of Facebook tactics to make you jealous.
When you are emotional and jealous, you can end up doing all kinds of crazy things on or off Facebook that pushes your ex further away.
For example, you may decide to “Unfriend” him just so that you can keep your sanity. But what if your boyfriend happens to be the oversensitive type?
Initially, he may harbor hopes of getting back together with you. But because you “Unfriend” him, he may think you have moved on and decided to move on too.
Just take a look at one of the comments I have gotten.
A few days ago, she told me that perhaps we could start again in the future. She said she still loves me but is just not ready for a serious relationship now. We are colleagues and still see each other at the workplace. She told a colleague that she has decided to move on because I unfriended her on FB and accepted a friend request from a girl. I only did so because I don’t want to see her updates on my wall every time I log in.
This is a comment by a guy (sometimes I do have guys leaving comments on my site) who is trying to get his girlfriend back.
He is not even trying to use Facebook to get her back. He “Unfriended” her simply because he wants to feel better by not seeing her post on his wall every day.
He also accepted a friend request from a girl who is just an ordinary friend. He has no intention of dating her. Yet his ex girlfriend has somehow decided to move on simply because of what he has done on Facebook.
You have to be really careful about what you are doing on Facebook if you want to get your ex boyfriend back. Do the wrong things and you will end up pushing your ex away. The best way to avoid these mistakes is probably to stay away from Facebook for the time being.
Facebook Is Not Designed To Get An Ex Back
No doubt, Facebook is probably one of the best inventions in modern time. It is a great tool for finding a long lost friend, keeping updated of your friends’ status and getting new customers for businesses.
However, it is not what you want to use to get your ex boyfriend back. The only exception is if you want to get your ex back after a year and you want to check whether he is in a relationship. And even then, the status you see on Facebook may not always be reliable. Some people just don’t update their Facebook status often and some people just like to put out a false front.
Facebook Tactics Are Often Based On Jealousy And Fear
Most probably, this is not the first “get your ex back with Facebook” article you are reading and probably the first that discourages you to do so.
The general advice is that you should change your profile photo, maybe take pictures with a guy in a way that will make your ex wonder whether you are together.
The idea here is to make your ex boyfriend jealous in a so called “subtle” way and hopefully, that will drive them crazy and make them chase after you. Unfortunately, for many women who try those methods, it backfires on them. After all, how subtle is subtle? How do you make sure that you don’t cross the line?
Unless you are a world class expert in playing this type of mind games, there is a very good chance that you will do the wrong things on Facebook. And let’s not forget that you are probably still quite emotional about your break up. That makes it easier for you to make all kinds of mistakes.
And then there are advice that encourages you to go for the extreme, telling you to unfriend your ex on Facebook. The idea behind this tactic is to play on the fear of your ex and hopefully, that will make him chase after you.
Do Those Tactics Work?
Sometimes, those tactics do work to help you get your ex back. But more often than not, the relationship will not last. After all, they are getting back together with you not because they really love you but for their own selfish reasons.
For example, a jealous boyfriend wants you back because he doesn’t want to lose to the other guy. But over time, if nothing has changed in your relationship, he will start to remember why he wants to break up with you in the first place. And before you know it, he is gone again.
When a relationship is all about tactics and mind games, it becomes what is known as the on-again, off-again relationship.
You Are Getting In Your Own Way For Healing
If you want to get your ex back, you need to give yourself the time and space to heal. Constantly checking your ex’s profile or trying to devise tactics to get your ex back on Facebook is going to stall your progress.
How are you going to heal when you are constantly worrying about whether your ex is responding to your Facebook tactics?
Do yourself a favor. For your own good, take a break from Facebook.
Look at the big picture. In the grand scheme of things, Facebook is probably not going to make a difference when it comes to getting an ex back.
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